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Nidhi Kadam

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Can you guess the age

of this lady? What about this lady?

Can you guess the ageof this lady? And this one now?

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Conditioning

If 10 seconds have that kind of impact on the

way we see things, what about lifetime

conditioning?

Paradigm

Our Paradigm affects how we interact with

others. We can not maintain wholeness if we

talk and walk differently.

What do you think about this?

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Dependence

Independence

Interdependence

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1. Proactive 2. End in mind

3. 1stthings 1st

5. Understand then

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6. Synergize

4. Win-Win

Private

Victory

Public

Victory

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1. Proactive 2. End in mind

3. 1stthings 1st

5. Understand then

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6. Synergize

4. Win-Win

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What? Why?

How? Want..

KnowingI need tolisten and knowing

howto listen is not

enough unless I

wantto listen.

Until then listeningwont become my

habit.

Unlearn if they

keep you away

from your goals.

Adopt new ones

to make your

life effective. 6Return

ExpandKnowledge

Skills

Desire

around effective

Habits


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7 Habits move us

progressively onMaturity Continuum

Dependence

Independence

Interdependence

We are born as

Dependent.

As we grow wetend to become

Independent.

As we grow more

we realize, the

whole world is

Interdependent.

Dependent people need others get what they want.

Others control them Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, Financially.

Independence is a major achievement in itself.

Independent people get what they want through their efforts.

Interdependent people combine their efforts with others.

Its a choice onlyindependent people can make.

..from Dependence

to Independence

..and then to

Interdependence.

Whatever your role is, while stepping from independenceto Interdependenceyou actually get

into a leadership role and influence people.


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Private

Victory

Public

Victory

Primary Greatness Basic goodness in character

Integrity, Humility, Fidelity, Temperance, Courage, Justice, Patience, Industry, Simplicity, Modesty

Personal Effectiveness (Character Ethics)

Interpersonal effectiveness (Personality Ethics)Public image, PMApositive mental attitude, behavior, skills, techniques, human interaction

Secondary Greatness Social recognition of talents


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1. Proactive1. ProactiveProactive

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Stimulus Response

Genetic Determinism

Psychic Determinism

Environmental Determinism

Self-awareness Independent will

Imagination Conscience

ReactivityProactivity

Between Stimulus and Response,

man has freedom to choose.

Response-ability = Responsibility

Reactive Response Proactive Response

I cant. I can choose.

This makes me sick. I can control my feelings.

I can do nothing. Let me look at the alternatives.

I am like this. I can choose another approach.


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Circle or Concern

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Circle of

Influence

Proactive people focus their

effort on circle of influence.

They work on the things theycan do something about.

Their positive energy

enlargestheir circle of

influence.

Reactive people focus on

their circle of concern.

They blame uncontrollablecircumstances.

Their negative energy

shrinkstheir circle of

influence.

Nuclear war

National debt

Others weaknesses

Environmental issues

Health

Education

Loan

ChildrenJob


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End in mind

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Circle of Influence

Family

Work

Money

Friends

Self

Spouse

Pleasure Enemy

The sources of

our security,

wisdom, power

and guidance

keep enlargingthe circle of

influence.

We all have our

own unique set

of centers.

Our missions

(ends) or center

of our lives are

based on ourcircle of

influence.Self-Centered?

WisdomSecurity

GuidancePower


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1stthings 1st

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Manager

Producer

Art of Delegation

Management is essential for moving the

fulcrum over.

Gofer (go-for) delegationProducers.

One on one supervision of method

Stewardship DelegationManagers.focuses on results than methods.

More effective.


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1stthings 1st

Urgent Not Urgent

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Pressing Issues

Crises

Problems

Deadlines

Important

NotImportant

These activities are fun to do and peasant but not important.This Quadrant consists of expectations of others.

People invest a lot of time here confusing it with Quadrant I.

Activities may not be popular with others but with us. They easy to

accomplish but not important.

People associated

Crises manager

Problems minded person

Deadlines driven producers

Urgent matters are Visible, so we react on them.

They press on us and require immediate attention & results.

II

Planning

Prevention

PC / Opportunities

Relations

Recreation

III

Interruptions (some calls/mails)

Some meetings/reports

Popular activities

Proximities

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Trivia (some calls/mails)

Engaging tasks

Time wasters

Pleasant activities

People spending maximum time in Quadrant 3 & 4 lead irresponsiblelives.

Effective people stand out of these 2 quadrants as they are non important activities.

Its Heart of effective personal management.

Important but not urgent activities require more proactivity

(Habit 1) and End in mind (Habit 3).

e.g. - We must act to seize opportunity.

All 7 habits are in Quadrant 2.

If you focus here it

expandsand then

dominates.

People spending 90%

time in this, run to

Quadrant IV with

remaining 10% time,neglecting Quadrant 2

& 3 completely.

Effective people shrink

Quadrant 1 by spending

more time in Quadrant 2

Importance

is associatedwith results.

They

contribute

to missions,

high priority

goals,

values.


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Win-Win

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Win-Win Qualities -

CharacterThe foundation.

IntegrityKeeping promises.

MaturityCourage & consideration.

Abundance mentalityTheres a lot for allCharacter

Abundance

Win-Win Steps

Stop treating people and start treating problem.

Look at the problem from others point of views as well.

Identify the key issues and concerns.

Determine results.

Identify possible options.

Win-Win can only survive in organizations where systems support it.

You cant change the fruit without changing the root.


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Understand then

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This is something you can start practicing right away

Show your understanding and respect. Dont push others to open up. Have patience.See important things from others eyes. Seek first to understand, even before problems come up and you evaluate them to

prescribe solutions with your own ideas.

Be proactive to do preventive work instead of waiting for next parent-teacher meeting or business negotiation opportunity.

You will save tremendous amount of time, energy and money.

When you listen, you learn.

It enables you to deeply understand others. You have accurate information to get to the heart of the matter. You can build

Emotional Bank Accounts and give people psychological air to work together effectively.

You build loyalty that works beyond working hours.

Do a role play with your loved ones on past failures.

This way differences become stepping stones to synergy.

Its an Inside out approach.

Right in the middle of circle of influence. Merely listening makes you most influencing.

Your circle expands increasing your ability to influence everything in your circle of concern.

Stages of Empathetic Listening

Reflective Listening (least effective)mimic the content.

Rephrase contentleft brain into actionlogical, reasoning.

Reflect the feeling right brain into actionemotions.

Giving Psychological Air (most effective)2nd+3rd.

i.e., helping others to work through their own thought process and feelings. They grow their confidence in

your sincere desire to listen. Their barrier between feelings and communicating them to us disappears.

At times transformation doesntrequire outside counsel. When people are given chance to really open up,

they unravel their problems and bring the solutions.


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Account

Trustbuilt up in a relationship. Feeling safe being with another person.

Benefits of more Deposits

When Trust act is high, communication is easy, instant and effective.

Types of Deposits/Withdrawals

UnderstandingTreating everyone same by treating each of them differently.

Attending to little thingsIn relationships, little things are big things. People are tender and

sensitive inside.

Keeping commitmentsIt is a major deposit that builds bridges of trust to span the gaps in

understanding.

Clarifying expectationsDoing itexplicitly in the beginning to avoid conflicts later when they

arent met.

IntegrityBeing loyal to those who are not present.

Apologizing sincerelyDoing it while making withdrawals from EBA. Apologies make deposits.

Understand then

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Synergize

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This is crowing achievement to all the 5 habits.

Everything in nature is related to everything else.

A great deal of synergy is in your circle of influence.

When two plants are planted together, the roots

comingle and improve the quality of the soil and both

the plants grow better than growing alone.

Its Team-work, its Team-building.


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Its particularly powerful in dealing with negative energy.

Dont take insults personally.

Sidestep negative energy.

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Emotional Psychological Unconscious Illogical

logicalConsciousReasonableEconomical

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Defensive

Respectful

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PhysicalIntellectual

Social/EmotionalSpiritual

Exercise

Nutrition

Stress management

Reading

Writing

Planning

Visualizing

Study

Values

Commitments

Meditation

Service

Empathy

Synergy

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Principles

Principles are natural laws that cant be broken. We can only break ourselves

against them.

Principle of Growth & changeIn all the life, there are sequential stages of growth and development.

Each step is important and each one takes time. Would positive

thinking alone enable you to achieve enormous success?

A thousand mile journey begins with the 1ststep. Admitting to the

ignorance is often the first step in our education.

People admit they have temper problems but they dont feel awkwardin accepting their emotional development level as low.

Attitude

Think more positively. You may not get what you expected.

But you would be so positive that you would be happy with

what youve got. Attitude can make the real difference.

We see things as we are, not as they are. Where we stand

depends upon where we sit. The facts have no meanings apart

from the interpretations.

Laws of Love & Life

Law of loveis - Loving people unconditionally. It makes them live the laws

of lifeCooperation, Contribution, Self Discipline and Integrity

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